A little history meme

10 YEARS AGO:

I was newly married to the guy now known as The Ex and newly transplanted from Oregon to Nevada, Missouri (pronounced nuh-VAY-duh muh-ZUR-ah) with the plan of going back to college. I still miss Oregon. We lived with The Ex’s mom and had a really miserable time. She was great. He was a total slug. I finally forced the issue and got a job in Kansas City. The Ex finally got himself enrolled in school and we found a shitty little studio apartment to live in. After hearing about the second assault in the hallway we moved to a better class of poor neighborhood and carried on.

5 YEARS AGO:

I met the wonderful man who would become The Best Husband in the World ™ (TBHITW). I was stage managing a show for a community theater and he was an actor. Meanwhile, I was trying to figure out why I continued to live with The Ex. We were worlds apart and barely living as roommates. Basically he lived in the computer room in the back of the house. He worked 2^nd shift as a chef-in-training and hung out online til the wee hours of the morn. I occupied the front of the house and worked normal office hours. Although we still shared a bed our sleep schedule only overlapped by a couple hours at most. I started waking up at 4 and 5 in the morning and going to work 6 or 7 (instead of my normal 8:30 or 9:00) because I was so unhappy. Getting to know TBHITW reminded me that I was a person of value and needed to get out of that horrible situation.

I must pause a moment here to say that The Ex has turned out to be a rather decent human being. He even sent a donation to the LingLing fund. He and I were a horrible match. A bad case of friends getting married because that’s what everyone else was doing at the time. I think he truly loved me but I never loved him with the same depth. I did a huge disservice to him by going forward with a marriage I knew in my heart to be a mistake. Getting divorced was probably the best thing we ever did for each other. I found TBHITW and he has gone on to success in Minneapolis.

1 YEAR AGO:

TBHITW and I had chosen to adopt from Nepal and were settling in for the wait until our 4^th anniversary so we could submit our paperwork; however, we were starting to hear rumors of instability in the adoption program and general instability in the government. Within a few months the king would dismiss the entire government and we would dismiss the dream of adopting a little brown boy and seeing Mt. Everest on our adoption trip. I still have a soft spot in my heart for that country and still hope to travel there someday. Perhaps we’ll combine that with a heritage tour of China someday.

YESTERDAY:

Set up my new gmail account while trying to get motivated to get some work done. In the evening, my girlfriends and I made about 1500 cream cheese mints for SV & BC’s wedding.

TOMORROW:

I will go to work and earn my keep. In the evening I will clean sis-in-law’s house as part of our adoption fundraising efforts.

5 things I would do with a million bucks:

100K to God first, buy a big old house on Briarcliff, set up trusts for LingLing and the Godson, bankroll someone’s dream, quit work to become a full-time home schooler.

5 places I’d like to visit:

British Isles, Norway/Sweden/Denmark (I always think of that as one place), Nepal, Constantinople/Istanbul, Chile

5 bad habits:

reading blogs into the wee hours, not finishing things, not playing with my dogs enough, not washing my face at night, thinking about my angst so much I forget to be a good friend to my people

5 things I will never wear:

bikini, fringe, ruffles, sailor collars, anything smaller than a D cup

even after reduction surgery (which would be item #6 after the $ windfall above)

5 biggest joys at the moment:

anticipating meeting LingLing, setting up the nursery, scratching my dogs behind their ears, reading mom blogs, finding a store around the corner that carries large and luscious bras (bought a cute pink lace 34 HH last week - the girls are happy)